Comments on: How can divorce be made fairer for kids?

By: Abigail Johnson

Abigail Johnson — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 13:49:39 +0000

if both parents decided to file a divorce, the children of course may be affected. It is really unfair for the kids.

By: Rosalind Sedacca

Rosalind Sedacca — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:59:02 +0000

Fortunately good help is universal and applies regardless of where you are based. While the legal system may differ from nation to nation, even state to state, effective and responsible parenting after divorce works around the world. So let’s focus on spreading the word to alert parents about how they can create child-centered solutions for any family coping with separation or divorce.

By: anne

anne — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 08:45:46 +0000

To start with one of the problems is, that there seems to be a lack of support for those who think that they want to divorce ie counselling, and it is very expensive. But also the parents won’t go and see anyone, not the younger ones today, so they just split up. My son and his partner split up, two very young children, they were having major problems, but they wouldn’t listen, and just battled on. They split up a year ago, and the arguments still go on, because of demands, lack of communication, and stubbornness. What can anyone do?

By: Ellee

Ellee — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 07:20:24 +0000

Rosalind and RobleyBlake, thanks for your comments, but I wonder why all the books are helplines are based in America, what is there in the UK?

By: RobleyBlake

RobleyBlake — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:22:50 +0000

Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone.

By: Rosalind Sedacca

Rosalind Sedacca — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 14:39:06 +0000

I founded the Child-Centered Divorce Network as a valuable resource for parents facing, moving through and transitioning after divorce. My goal is to help them make the best, most conscious decisions on behalf of their children for the short and long-term.

I provide a free weekly newsletter filled with sound advice on breaking the news to the kids, co-parenting successfully, pitfalls to avoid and much more. I also share other resources for parents, my blogs, telephone coaching services and more to support parents in every possible way. Visit http://www.childcentereddivorce.com to learn more.

Sincerely,
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce

By: Ellee

Ellee — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 14:12:39 +0000

Daniel, I will allow you your plug, and good luck with your book.

Simon, you are right to say that children should come first, particularly in circumstances like this. They really hate to feel ignored and “piggy in the middle”.

Sally, in an ideal world, yes, that is the way it should work, and often does too. This post is highlighting the difficulties that often arise.

By: sally

sally — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 09:33:38 +0000

surely its down to the family or parents themselves…. only they can make it easier on the kids

By: simon

simon — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 03:58:12 +0000

I think we now live in a world where most people are self absorbed. In a modern society men dont “need” women and visa vesa. Its easy to bail out should things geta little “tough” in a relationship.

Its my view that the children should come first each and everytime. that our actions MUST be measured with “how will effect all my family” not just the partner.

Most arguements about kids are just selfish action IMO..

By: Brain Daniel

Brain Daniel — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 02:18:31 +0000

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