Wedding invites can be tricky and cause heated rows, especially 
if you want to invite your ex along. If there is no animosity, should it be a big deal?
Anyway, Hugh Grant will escape the pleasure of wearing a turban at the lavish wedding in India of his former flame Liz Hurley to Arum Nayar as he has been left off the guest list.
I know rumours abound about Jemima Khan’s dislike of Liz, but Hugh has taken the snub in his stride and says there is no bad feeling, that he didn’t think many people invited their ex to their wedding.
My husband’s ex girlfriend came along to our wedding, in fact she sang for us as she was in the choir. She stepped in at the last minute to help out and joined us at the reception too. It was no big deal for me. Would it bother you?
In the unlikely event that I should tie the nuptial knot at my age, I want all my exes there, lined up in the front row!
I`ve seen a picture of you Limoncello and I think you will not be short of offers !
When I think of Scotland ceding from the Union and I hear peolle say it will be easy I wlways think imagine being tied to your ex wife …AAAAAGGGHH!!
I `m onto my second wife so far and the current incumbent has her P 45 on pernenant stand by.You have to keep these women down
I’d have to think long and hard about having the groom there.
Welshcakes, Never say never, it would make a great picture to have your exes lined up on the front row.
Newmania, You are incorrigible, as always.
I am puzzled as to why anyone would invite their ex partners to their wedding- or why ex partners would want to come.
Surely it is a bit insulting to the person you ARE marrying to invite along people you MIGHT have married, along with a few past flings for good luck?
On you wedding day, you look to the future surely, and the past should be left alone.
Of course, since I don’t tend to keep in contact with ex partners (the exceptions can be counted on the fingers of one hand) and marriage isn’t something factored in to my life plan, my opinion is of doubtful relevance.
Joe, Some people can remain good friends after a relationship ends, but if it finishes on a sour note, then you are not likely to invite your ex to your wedding. I can understand that some partners find it threatening, but that shows a lack of trust. Each to his own, I guess.
It’s a selfish thing to want to invite the ex to a wedding, especially if the new partner does not like the ex.
Ah now Ellee, that wasn’t quite the slant I’d put on it.
I would say the whole concept of marriage is an ideal, an attempt at a ‘perfect’ relationship- partly the reason I don’t see myself ever going that far.
By definition a ‘perfect’ relationship would presumably have no ex partners. Of course this is completely unrealistic, but the illusion of it’s being so, the whole white wedding concept, has to be maintained on the day, even if it is fantasy.
I suppose that is a high ideal of the wedding concept, possibly down to my Catholic upbringing. I suppose if I’m honest I’ve never really looked at the wedding concept in anything other than the ideaistic- in reality it’s unlikely to be something I do.
Didn’t Camilla’s ex-husband go to her wedding to Prince Charles, I believe so.
And Joe, I’ve had to cover a few 50 and 60-year wedding anniversaries in my early cub reporter days and these couples all said the same thing, that the secret to a happy marriage was “give and take”, there is no such thing as “perfection”.
I agree with Joe – very strange that someone would invite his or her ex. Good friends you may be but at your wedding? Still, if one is comfortable with it …
I did still keep in contact with one ex partner for about six years until she got married herself. She was my first true love if you like, and for that reason, I would not bring her to watch me marry someone else.
It would be rude to both women.
I agree there’s no such thing as perfection, but there are such things as ideals.
I don’t think you should ever debate an ideal simply because you cannot live up to it.
That’s partly why it’s not part of my life plan.
Joe, If I still had feelings for an ex, I wouldn’t want to go to his wedding either, I do understand that entirely. I thought this would be an interesting topic to debate as Hugh Grant and Liz Hurley had been together a number of years, and parted for several years. From what I have read, they are on good terms, but Jemima does not feel comfortable about Liz. So I can see the difficulties in Liz inviting them along to her nuptials. But it’s something that is not unheard of.
As for ideals, we all have those, and there is no reason why they won’t turn into reality one day.
In my last post ‘debate’ should read ‘debase’. Oops!
I’m partly gutted Liz is lost to me. I had a poster of her in ‘that’ dress adorning my walls as a student- incidently objected to by the girl mentioned in my last post…
I know this sort of thing does happen, I have heard of it, but it stills feels kind of unnatural to me- a bit like going to an Aston Villa match sitting in the Villa terraces wearing my Birmingham City kit
Forgive me but if I am not mistaken, Jemima Khan is still a Muslim is she not? She is probably aware that in the eyes of the Qur’an, it is absolutely forbidden for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man. For more:
http://thetruereligion.org/modules/wfsection/article.php?articleid=254
Does this mean Hugh is planning on a switch to Mohammedism?
IT, Very good point, maybe Hugh will be pleased for an excuse not to tie the knot, he often looks miserable when they are photographed together.
Just got back in and brought Ellee’s blog up. After the evening I’ve just had, even more convinced marriage is a poor idea. Life is too short.
I respect those who think otherwise, what they have must be a beautiful thing.
The personal arrangements people make between eachother are their own business, I guess. that applies in the instance quoted here also.